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Nuts! Let's Run Away From Home.

I don’t think there’s anyone out there who can escape the problems that life throws at you, and sometimes, don’t you get to the point where you just want to fling up your arms in despair, crawl under your comforter and suck  your thumb? Well, that sure is one way to get within.

My last two weeks have been like that. I have gotten up every day thinking “What next?” I find myself indulging in self-pity, and that’s completely ridiculous because although there are three small areas in my life that I find challenging, there are dozens and hundreds that are just wonderful.

I remember in 2007 when my ice maker hose burst and created the hole in the ceiling in my downstairs bathroom - which subsequently tripled in size due to the wetness of the plaster, I was really “low.”  I had just finished remodeling my kitchen and bathroom and bang! Another re-do, and this after three years of fixer-upping.  But then, as now, the situation got fixed by perseverance and just taking one next step - the one you can see; yes, that little bitty one that seems unimportant.  Take that one.

Spiritual healing from obesity is like that.  Spiritual healing occurs because you have changed the way you think about your body, your self, your life.  That kind of change doesn’t happen all at once.  I know we all fantasize about those magic wand moments that only happen in the cartoons when a mere wave disappears all the gunk.  Spiritual healing isn’t like that.  It’s about one tiny fix at a time, and the next one, and the next one.

I watched “Dance Your Ass Off” last night. What a wonderful Big Girl, Big Boy show!  It’s on Oxygen on Monday nights and it’s the Big Folks version of the Biggest Loser + Dancing.  I loved it.  I love dancing.  I don’t do dancing.  I have Gabrielle Roth’s CD’s.  I’ve read “Sweat Your Prayers.”  I fantasize about winning the Lottery and having time and money to hire a teacher and dedicating myself to dancing my ass off.

What is it that locks us into our “places” unmoving?  I need you to help me answer that question.  I know this blog appeals to your heart, your inner places, and I’ve shared so many of mine with you.  won’t you please share yours with me?

Love ya,

Pat

I laugh at my challenges

Life is giving me a run for my money, literally, these days.  Without going into all the gorey details, my bank account has been tapped again and again and again over the last few months.  It’s been a bit disconcerting to have all these novel (although valid) charges continue to hit me.  Today, the last straw arrived.  I’ve been awaiting a wire transfer from a client who lives out of the country, and MY bank (that’s as in Arrrrgggghhhhh!) refused to accept the money into my account. I was dismayed over this news just a few moments ago.

Now, in the past, these were all great reasons to quit the work I was doing to mentally lose weight.  I’d throw up my arms in dispair and figure, “Oh the heck with it all! I’ll just go comfort myself with food.”  And that would be the end of my project.

Do you recognize the Dieting Cycle? I’ll bet dollars to donuts that you’re in it.  It’s called Diet, Quit, Despair, Guilt, Motivate, Diet, Quit, Despair, Guilt Motivate…..and the cycle runs on and on, and on, and on, and on.

At some point, you have to step out of the cycle, recognize what your behavior has been when you are in it, and then resolve not to go back to it again.  It’s hard, ladies.  It’s hard not to diet.  It’s hard not to get weighed and allow those numbers to make you feel good or bad.  It’s hard to quit doing what you’ve always done even when it isn’t working.  We’re like rats in a maze running the maze for no cheese at the end.  It’s hard to find other things to motivate you.  It’s one heck of a challenge to find another way.

I found another way.  My entire website, my book, my teleclasses, and this blog are all about another way - a different approach - a mental way.  And it works.  I’ve lost 35 pounds since last thanksgiving using mental means alone.  Courtesy of my lifetime of experiences, I learned that life is good, life is mental, and life is individual.  I think back to the movie The Truman Show and the same lessons I learned all tucked into that movie.  If you haven’t watched it, I recommend it.  Think about “good, mental, and individual” as you watch it and you’ll see it.  And if you don’t, email me and we can talk.

The moral of this blog is:  even if you become scared because of the tap on your monies, don’t deviate from your mental weight loss project.  The two are not connected.  Why go down on two fronts? Isn’t one enough?  Keep doing  your mental work to see yourself losing weight.  You will.

It’s about making a mental mind model.  It’s about persevering in thinking that mind model three times a day.  It’s about expecting success.  It’s about being singleminded and not letting yourself get distracted when Life waves Nah-Nahs in your face.  I give myself an A+ today.

Love,

Pat

You will never know how grateful I am that you are out there reading my words.  You so help me to stay on track.  I am absolutely convinced that all of the progress I’ve made in mentally losing weight has happened due to several things, and you are one of them, so Thank You.

Here are all of my reasons for successful perseverance in losing weight mentally.  It’s absolutely empowering to know that I once did not know how to do this; tried hundreds of other solutions; finally unfolded enough confidence.  I am successful and I am still in the process of completing this task.

1. I’m absolutely convinced Life is a mental experience

2. I understand how weight loss is accomplished mentally

3. My audience keeps me motivated and on track

4. I’m a persevering fool

5. I refuse to die obese

6. I am 100% single-minded about this project

Now let me see.  Doh!  If you did those six, you could lose weight mentally too and give up on the dieting miasma. And it wouldn’t hurt if you were pleasant, agreeable and adaptable.

Have you noticed I haven’t been pushing my book or my teleclasses?  Wondering why?  It’s because I am working with an internet marketing coach and a substantial reformat is in the works.  Well, okay, that wouldn’t prevent you from buying the book and getting started on Never Dieting Again and learning to love yourself.  Nope, I wouldn’t say no to that!

Love,

Pat