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Amazing Me!

Like the rest of you, I’ve kvetched about being fat all my life. I’m hyper-sensitive about “things fat.” So  last week, in the midst of my Memorial Day holiday, somewhere I heard a question asked about another topic and I turned it into the title of this Blog Post. I think it’s very, very important for all women of size to answer.

Who did I become BECAUSE I was fat? I’m just going to make a list here for you of what I have unfolded in my life due to being obese. None of these is a bitch nor is any one a brag. They are all statements of fact about who I have become courtesy of my cross to bear.

· I know that I am 100% capable of self-sufficiency.

· I know that while I might whine initially, very soon after the whine, I own whatever is making me uncomfortable, dissatisfied, angry, or off-kilter in some way and I fix it.

· I am enormously grateful for the innumerable blessings in my life. I have two friends who spent this holiday with me doing handyman work after driving six hours to get to my house, and two wonderful relatives who tried to do the same while sick but had to leave. Amazing!

· I know that I am resourceful and can find dozens of ways to resolve a need or a problem.

· I am generously in love with my Self due to my understanding of my nature.

· I have great wisdom, true brilliance and the willingness to help most others if I can see they make the effort to help themselves.

· I have a long, long list of skills and talents.

· I have a deep-seated sense of real spirituality. I thrive on Truth, Beauty, and Goodness.

· I am very quick witted. You have to be when surfer dudes yell “No Fat Chicks!” You have to react fast to smack them upside their heads when all you’ve got is words.

· I am a deep, deductive reasoner. The enjoyment at the end of this process is exhilarating.

· I have learned acceptance is the most practical form of love. I no longer try to change anyone. I accept them “as is” because they are just perfect “as is” to my eyes.

· I know that generosity generates and I enjoy being generous.

· I can manifest whatever I strongly desire using my mind alone.

· I adore being alive. I’m not planning to die any time soon. 126 is my goal.

I don’t want to think up any more. That’s enough. Not a bad cross for this fat girl to have had to carry, eh? I’m pretty happy with what I have unfolded. The payback isn’t always a bitch. I know that by persevering to love and accept yourself, you will. I’d like to help you do that. My book would be a boon and a blessing and get you on the right path.

Love,

Pat

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One of the most helpful things you can do as an overweight or obese woman to support yourself while you are doing mental dieting and mental exercise  is to picture what you will look like when your task has been completed.  Get a really clear picture of what your goal will look like.  Think about that picture while you are doing your mental work each day.

(You ARE doing your mental work three times each day, right? I think the mandate to “pray without ceasing” means to continuously think the goal of your mental work every time you become consciously aware of your project, and then, three times a day, sit down specifically to consciously focus on your goals.)

Some folks have called this technique “visualization.”  All it means is creating a mental image inside your mentality of what you desire.  It’s a three-step process:

1.  Visualize your desire as an image

2. Think your desire until you arrive at a place of absolute conviction inside your own mentality that what you desire is right and good for you

3.  Enjoy the likeness of the image that appears in your life.  (It should look just like your desire.)

You might recognize some of these words because they have been used elsewhere in your life.  Far be it from me to tell you this is what was meant!  You’re a bright light your own sweet self. 

Take on the day!

Love,

Pat

I’m fairly confident that most of us have heard the ‘hit the ball and drag Charley” joke. You can Google it if you haven’t.  It came up during the week here at the World of Within, and I got to thinking about how we large women do that.

Now we all know that we big girls have big, big hearts that are generous, excessively conscientious, and overly responsible.  I knew one employer who made it a habit to hire only large women because, as he said, they did the work of two people due to that being over responsible.  I was not happy when I heard that one!  Smack!  Even in retrospect and ‘virtually’, that felt good. 

We big girls have many wonderful character traits in common.  We also have some in common that are not quite so wonderful.  Turning a blind eye and a deaf ear to dealing with the past - the events of our childhood - is another one that many large women perpetrate.  It’s because of this that the “hit the ball and drag Charley” joke came to mind.

Your mind is Cause itself.  When you use it to think, it causes what you think.  And if you have stuff inside there in your years of experience going back to the very beginning of  your life that you haven’t made sense of yet, well, honey, it’s hanging all over your body screaming for your attention.

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At the World of Within, we encourage looking at those things, so that once you get comfortable on the inside, you can do something about the outside.  My book My Cats Have Seen Me Naked tells you the story of how I accomplished self love and self acceptance while I was obese, and now, I am changing the outside by using the purely mental means I’ve learned that work. 25 lbs since Thanksgiving and counting. 

We have all been manipulated by the media to expect instantaneous gratification for all that we want.  Life doesn’t work that way.  You have to take each tiny step, and eventually in looking back, you see that you’ve come many miles.  That’s how life works.  If  Life was instantaneous, we’d all be gone from this plane. It’s important to take each stately step, but more importantly is to BEGIN to take them. That is my wish for you today.

If you’d like help beginning and then taking your stately steps, our Teleclass Series Fall Madly in Love with Yourself is beginning on March 9.  The calls are a lot of fun.  Hope to see you there.

Love,

Pat