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Hieronymous Matson, 2 days old

Being gone from Thursday afternoon to Sunday afternoon for the birth of my first grandbaby was a bit disorienting for me.  To boot, I became one of those dithering grannies.  Get used to his picture appearing here.  :)  Add to that the fact that I got a new computer installed yesterday.  I’ve spent just hours and hours trying to get everything set up the way it was on my old PC.  Sigh!  I want to run away from home…..and go see Hiero.

Has this stopped me from doing the mental work I know is so necessary to change the size of my body?  No it hasn’t.  That at least remains constant. I’ve been hit with tons of changes (including snow last night!) and I think I’m going to have to give myself an A+ in perseverance and consistency.  It takes that to get the job done.  After all, I am going from 67 years of thinking “I am fat” to a total reversal of concept “I have a normal sized body” and it does take assiduous effort to make that change.  I’m worth the effort. So are you.

If you’ve been making those efforts along with me, here are some tips:

1.  Review your intention.  What is it?  Is it still as strong as it was when you made it?  If not, how can you re-infuse it? Do-overs are strongly encouraged.

2.  Review your daily practice.  If you aren’t stopping to mentally think what you want into place three times a day for at least 15 minutes work, how about a renewal of that effort?  Right thought takes a right thinker, and because right thought expresses itself, and because you know that diet and exercise just don’t work permanently, are you ready to do whatever it takes?  It takes 15 minutes 3 times a day!

3. Use a support system to stay on track.  Diet is not a permanent cure, but it can be a nice prop to remind you what you are truly about.  I don’t know about you, but with a lifetime habit of wrong thinking, are you able to eat rich desserts and simultaneously hold the thought that you are losing weight? I’m not. And sometimes, when my thinking is truly dead-on-accurate, I enjoy a moderate dessert. Please note the word moderate.  Everything in moderation works.

4. Enjoy what you eat and eat it consciously. Think only about enjoyment as you eat.  Don’t eat so-called diet foods.  They don’t taste right and you cannot enjoy them.  Enjoyment is a key ingredient.  Try it; you’ll like it.

Love,

Pat

There seem to be many things, people, occasions - I’m not sure just what to call them - in my life where forgiveness is required, practically mandated.  I am beginning to see the connection that  holding on to hurts, grudges, offenses, sensitivities might just have something to do with the concept of weight we are all holding on to as well that serves as protection.

I have a history of feeling offended.  I operate my own life from a place of “no intentional malice” so when things come my way that seem “less than,” I have a tendency to act like a deer in the headlights.  I go into a state of shock that someone can have done, said, or pointed in my direction something that appears less than good.  This lesson has been a very difficult one for me to learn and a few years back, I shined an especially bright light onto it for myself.  I think I am now filing away at the ragged edges and working to complete the job.

The light that dawned on me some years back is that while I don’t operate from a place of malice, the intention to hurt another, there are folks who do.  This was unfathomable to me, and the light that got shone on it was this: I am too good for that kind of behavior.  When something evil comes at me, because of my own goodness, it throws me for a loop. There was a time when I felt the need to argue, to go hide away and suck my thumb feeling hurt, deflect via argument their barbs, and like behaviors.  Now, because I understand my own goodness, I simply step aside and let it go by.

I once heard that when someone offers you a gift, and you do not accept the gift, they are left holding the bag.  I work hard to do that: not accept the gift.  There is an individual in my life who has just recently offered me a gift.  It looked all pretty, but I’m afraid it contained, basically, dog poo.  I am working hard these days to forgive her, to let it go and permit her to own it, and to move on to more mental weight loss for me.  Why hold on to something like that?  I am too good to kvetch over dog poo.

I recently read “Forgive everyone for everything.”  I would give the author credit but for the life of me, I can’t recall where I read it, dang it all.  That idea jumped off the page for me and I have it on a sticky note on my monitor.  I use it all the time, so thanks to that anonymous author from the bottom of my heart. It’s amazing to me how frequently I have to exercise forgiveness.  I think that I have developed a hyper-sensitivity and that sensitivity is frequently offended.  So I have to drag out my forgiverer and put it into play.

No links, no pictures, no marketing today - just a generous gift that I hope will help you forgive everyone for everything and augment your own mental weight loss.

Love ya,

Pat

There is a lot said about the Law of Attraction these days.  I’m not confident that all that is said is 100% accurate.  One of the things I know about it is something I’ve never heard discussed so I’ll discuss it here today.

This is a picture of Agave.

Lots of good accrues here: Sweetener, Astringent, Tequila

Some people wonder why “setting your intention” doesn’t always work.  That dang Universe just doesn’t want to “give” to them.  Why is that and what does it have to do with obesity and changing your bodily size - if that’s what you want to do?

1.  “The Universe” as a concept is not accurate.  There is no “Universe” giving stuff to you.  This is the same mistake that religions make when they put their concept of a “Personal God” into that giving role.  It just doesn’t happen that way. The right idea behind this is:  YOU are the Universe.  You are a mental being.  Your thinking is causative.  What YOU think is what YOU get.  There is no universe (just as there is no personal God) doling things out to  you.  You are creating (or not creating if you don’t know how) what you get with your mind.  If you want to serve yourself well, learn how to create things with your mind.  This is what I teach on this site.

2. I haven’t heard anybody address the concept that you have to be good to get.  You cannot be a Tasmanian devil out there ripping, snorting, raping and pillaging and then ask “the Universe” for something good and hope to get it.  This goodness doesn’t have to be about giant things.  It’s about how your self-talk is loving; how your relationships are focused on the good; on how your efforts to unfold more daily is worked on.  So in addition to learning how to create things through a purely mental process, if you are not being good, this will set up the expectation of “no good” and that is what you will create.

I’m sorry to say that these truths now becoming so much talked about are not always accurate, sometimes watered down, or sometimes taught prematurely before the individual really has a complete grasp. This is sad to me and I believe these folks are spoken of in biblical terms and the concept of hanging a millstone around their necks is also addressed.

The Fall Madly in Love With Yourself Teleclass Series teaches the purest truth.  You’d be well served to join us in unfolding more good, more love, more self acceptance. Class #2 is beginning at 6 pm PST on March 23rd, next Monday night and I’d sure love it if you were there.

Why does the good accrue in magical ways and how does that happen?  My intentions are good and pure.  I only want what is mine to have and I seek to do harm to no one.  The snow plows destroyed my garden boxes this past winter.  Yesterday, the sometimes dour Supervisor of County Roads showed up to assess the damages.  Net result?  I’m getting new, deeper boxes.  I’m getting the two in the middle shoveled away and moved for my Home Depot Deck Project Materials delivery. And the Supervisor acted friendly, kind and interested.  The good that I am accrues as the good that I get. Like that, folks.

Love,

Pat