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There seem to be many things, people, occasions - I’m not sure just what to call them - in my life where forgiveness is required, practically mandated.  I am beginning to see the connection that  holding on to hurts, grudges, offenses, sensitivities might just have something to do with the concept of weight we are all holding on to as well that serves as protection.

I have a history of feeling offended.  I operate my own life from a place of “no intentional malice” so when things come my way that seem “less than,” I have a tendency to act like a deer in the headlights.  I go into a state of shock that someone can have done, said, or pointed in my direction something that appears less than good.  This lesson has been a very difficult one for me to learn and a few years back, I shined an especially bright light onto it for myself.  I think I am now filing away at the ragged edges and working to complete the job.

The light that dawned on me some years back is that while I don’t operate from a place of malice, the intention to hurt another, there are folks who do.  This was unfathomable to me, and the light that got shone on it was this: I am too good for that kind of behavior.  When something evil comes at me, because of my own goodness, it throws me for a loop. There was a time when I felt the need to argue, to go hide away and suck my thumb feeling hurt, deflect via argument their barbs, and like behaviors.  Now, because I understand my own goodness, I simply step aside and let it go by.

I once heard that when someone offers you a gift, and you do not accept the gift, they are left holding the bag.  I work hard to do that: not accept the gift.  There is an individual in my life who has just recently offered me a gift.  It looked all pretty, but I’m afraid it contained, basically, dog poo.  I am working hard these days to forgive her, to let it go and permit her to own it, and to move on to more mental weight loss for me.  Why hold on to something like that?  I am too good to kvetch over dog poo.

I recently read “Forgive everyone for everything.”  I would give the author credit but for the life of me, I can’t recall where I read it, dang it all.  That idea jumped off the page for me and I have it on a sticky note on my monitor.  I use it all the time, so thanks to that anonymous author from the bottom of my heart. It’s amazing to me how frequently I have to exercise forgiveness.  I think that I have developed a hyper-sensitivity and that sensitivity is frequently offended.  So I have to drag out my forgiverer and put it into play.

No links, no pictures, no marketing today - just a generous gift that I hope will help you forgive everyone for everything and augment your own mental weight loss.

Love ya,

Pat