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Life is giving me a run for my money, literally, these days.  Without going into all the gorey details, my bank account has been tapped again and again and again over the last few months.  It’s been a bit disconcerting to have all these novel (although valid) charges continue to hit me.  Today, the last straw arrived.  I’ve been awaiting a wire transfer from a client who lives out of the country, and MY bank (that’s as in Arrrrgggghhhhh!) refused to accept the money into my account. I was dismayed over this news just a few moments ago.

Now, in the past, these were all great reasons to quit the work I was doing to mentally lose weight.  I’d throw up my arms in dispair and figure, “Oh the heck with it all! I’ll just go comfort myself with food.”  And that would be the end of my project.

Do you recognize the Dieting Cycle? I’ll bet dollars to donuts that you’re in it.  It’s called Diet, Quit, Despair, Guilt, Motivate, Diet, Quit, Despair, Guilt Motivate…..and the cycle runs on and on, and on, and on, and on.

At some point, you have to step out of the cycle, recognize what your behavior has been when you are in it, and then resolve not to go back to it again.  It’s hard, ladies.  It’s hard not to diet.  It’s hard not to get weighed and allow those numbers to make you feel good or bad.  It’s hard to quit doing what you’ve always done even when it isn’t working.  We’re like rats in a maze running the maze for no cheese at the end.  It’s hard to find other things to motivate you.  It’s one heck of a challenge to find another way.

I found another way.  My entire website, my book, my teleclasses, and this blog are all about another way - a different approach - a mental way.  And it works.  I’ve lost 35 pounds since last thanksgiving using mental means alone.  Courtesy of my lifetime of experiences, I learned that life is good, life is mental, and life is individual.  I think back to the movie The Truman Show and the same lessons I learned all tucked into that movie.  If you haven’t watched it, I recommend it.  Think about “good, mental, and individual” as you watch it and you’ll see it.  And if you don’t, email me and we can talk.

The moral of this blog is:  even if you become scared because of the tap on your monies, don’t deviate from your mental weight loss project.  The two are not connected.  Why go down on two fronts? Isn’t one enough?  Keep doing  your mental work to see yourself losing weight.  You will.

It’s about making a mental mind model.  It’s about persevering in thinking that mind model three times a day.  It’s about expecting success.  It’s about being singleminded and not letting yourself get distracted when Life waves Nah-Nahs in your face.  I give myself an A+ today.

Love,

Pat

Before I give you a list of the Basic Principles, you’ll need to understand how to affect a mental healing of the mistaken sense of obesity you’ve been lugging around. Please answer these three questions and be brutally honest with yourself.

© What do you want?

© What does it take to get what you want?

© Are you willing to do whatever it takes?

Question three is the kicker, don’t you think? Why? Because willingness is an attitude and it is your attitude that governs your life. Without a good attitude, nada. With a good attitude, everything.

If you inflate a balloon that has printing on it, the printing appears to get larger and larger. It’s not readable until the balloon is inflated. Life’s laws are like that as well. Until you look at them in great detail, you don’t see the connections or understand what they are about.

The Basic Principles discussed in chapter three of My Cats Have Seen Me Naked are all about just one thing – the Law of Cause and Effect. This law has so many juicy parts to it that you are well served to look at them in small pieces, so it will be blowing up the Law of Cause and Effect throughout all of my writing so you can read and interpret what’s written there.

After you have completed reading the book and working through the questions in its accompanying workbook, you will have a much fuller sense of the Law of Cause and Effect than you do now. You will know what the Law of Cause and Effect means. You will know what Cause truly is. You will easily identify Effect and you will know precisely how it got there in the first place! Better yet, you will learn how to use the Law to generate precisely what you desire in your life.

Just as in building a house, you have to have a strong foundation for this learning, and the principles below help you build just such a foundation.

Principle 1. Always be honest with yourself.

I’ve always been an “up” kind of person. For me, the glass is usually half full. But I have pockets of resistance myself to what I just wrote and I have a nasty attitude about those pockets.

If you know you’ve got a terrible attitude, resolve here and now to improve it. Attitude goes into the foundation of your success. You cannot build on a weak foundation, if you recall Harry Belafonte’s wise words.

I told lots of lies as a child to protect myself from punishment. This was a hard habit to overcome, but I made it. I can be brutally honest with others (I always ask for their permission first) and with myself. When someone says “Pat, you’re like this…..” I can listen, evaluate and if I see truth there, say “You’re right.” I wasn’t always able to do this.

Honesty should be in your foundation.

Principle 2. All that you do comes from integrity.

Integrity means moral soundness. I don’t think it matters where you come from, how you were educated, what school you attended, which church you belong to - somewhere along the line integrity was discussed. When I was a little girl, I did not have the strong concepts I now hold about integrity. Today, this is a place of great strength for me.

I like to think of integrity as universal good. If whatever you undertake is good for everyone concerned, you’ve got integrity on your side, and then more good can be added for your life’s score card.

If universal good is not being served, you are doomed to lots of inharmony. Oh, you might make tons of money, drive an expensive car, wear wonderful clothes, or have a skinny body, but inside yourself (where it’s not visible to those watching,) there won’t be harmony in the picture. There might be illness, anger, dissatisfaction, sneakiness….. you know the picture. You recognize the modus operandi.

Let integrity be your cornerstone.

Principle 3. Learn the Laws of Life and then Use Them.

In a mental universe, the laws that govern life are mental laws.

Life is good, mental, individual.

The essence of your life is goodness itself.

You think, therefore you are mind.

Only you can do the work you need to do for

yourself.

The Law of Cause and Effect:

Good things come from good thoughts.

So-called evil things come from evil thoughts.

The Law of Proportion:

The more good you think, the more good you get.

The more evil you think, the more evil you get.

The Law of Individuality

There’s only you in your world, thinking.

You can only think one idea at a time.

You can choose which thought you will think.

Wisdom is the Principle Thing.

“Wisdom is the principle thing, therefore get wisdom. And with all thy getting, get understanding.” Proverbs 4:7.

Wisdom means the right use or exercise of knowledge. The scripture above means Use what you currently know. Use it out of your sense of universal good. Use it so that all benefit and you will get greater understanding. And then, Use that greater understanding and you will get even greater understanding. The key to having wisdom is that you use it, in case you didn’t get my bolding clues.

If you operate your life from the three principles and the five laws explained above, you will be successful in creating a more accurate self-concept, you will unfold more understanding, and eventually you’ll disappear the obesity you created inadvertently with your mistaken thinking.

Persevering

I have been a believer in the tooth fairy, Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny, that guy on the white horse who carries me off into the sunset, and that I’ll win the lottery all my life. Aside from the quarters, the Christmas gifts and the chocolate, the payoff has been kind of sketchy.

I’ve also been a big believer that miracles can happen. I believe that one of my ideas will pay off big – maybe this book! I believe that Mr. Right does exist and that if he’s now in the jungle, he’s hacking his way out on his way to me. Most importantly, I believe that I can change my erring sense to a more accurate one and all excess weight will be gone forever.

And while I’m waiting for all those things to happen, I learned that I am the only Cause there can be in my mental universe. I learned that Phineas Quimby was right when he proclaimed “If it’s going to be, it’s up to me.” It’s a bit more graphic to say “Wish in one hand….” you know the rest. See which one fills up the fastest. It’s not by wishing, I can tell you that!

Take Action!

Action is the key to getting everything you want. You’ve got to take some action. Planning is wonderful. By all means, plan. But then, you’ve got to implement that plan by taking some action. Without action, zip. Don’t wait until your plan is perfect. Begin and refine the plan along the way. I once had a roommate in a house which had a very light-colored carpet. I wanted to shampoo the carpet. She was afraid if we wet it, it would stretch. I scrubbed the carpet over her objections. It didn’t stretch. I could never have known that unless I took some action.

Rather long.  Hoped you enjoyed it. There’s more like it in the book.

Love,

Pat

Being gone from Thursday afternoon to Sunday afternoon for the birth of my first grandbaby was a bit disorienting for me.  To boot, I became one of those dithering grannies.  Get used to his picture appearing here.  :)  Add to that the fact that I got a new computer installed yesterday.  I’ve spent just hours and hours trying to get everything set up the way it was on my old PC.  Sigh!  I want to run away from home…..and go see Hiero.

Has this stopped me from doing the mental work I know is so necessary to change the size of my body?  No it hasn’t.  That at least remains constant. I’ve been hit with tons of changes (including snow last night!) and I think I’m going to have to give myself an A+ in perseverance and consistency.  It takes that to get the job done.  After all, I am going from 67 years of thinking “I am fat” to a total reversal of concept “I have a normal sized body” and it does take assiduous effort to make that change.  I’m worth the effort. So are you.

If you’ve been making those efforts along with me, here are some tips:

1.  Review your intention.  What is it?  Is it still as strong as it was when you made it?  If not, how can you re-infuse it? Do-overs are strongly encouraged.

2.  Review your daily practice.  If you aren’t stopping to mentally think what you want into place three times a day for at least 15 minutes work, how about a renewal of that effort?  Right thought takes a right thinker, and because right thought expresses itself, and because you know that diet and exercise just don’t work permanently, are you ready to do whatever it takes?  It takes 15 minutes 3 times a day!

3. Use a support system to stay on track.  Diet is not a permanent cure, but it can be a nice prop to remind you what you are truly about.  I don’t know about you, but with a lifetime habit of wrong thinking, are you able to eat rich desserts and simultaneously hold the thought that you are losing weight? I’m not. And sometimes, when my thinking is truly dead-on-accurate, I enjoy a moderate dessert. Please note the word moderate.  Everything in moderation works.

4. Enjoy what you eat and eat it consciously. Think only about enjoyment as you eat.  Don’t eat so-called diet foods.  They don’t taste right and you cannot enjoy them.  Enjoyment is a key ingredient.  Try it; you’ll like it.

Love,

Pat