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Thad Matson Family at Christmas

I apologize to all who were reading the Christmas series of ideas.  I got so swamped at the last moment with all the holiday events that I am only now recovered enough to address the last three topics. If you’re just joining us, you can read the whole series here.

Today’s topic is Truth Alone Is Real. We live in a perceptive environment where we judge all that passes in front of us by whatever we see, hear, touch, taste, and smell.  Well, that works for a while.  There are two more senses, did you know?  Uh huh!  There remain reason and understanding.

Reason (hopefully you’ve all arrived at the state of reason by now) changes what passes in front of us. Reason lets us place our educated judgment - perhaps understanding - on what we see, hear, etc. One of the most wonderful things that reason can do is that is can permit us to determine if a thing is Real or if it is Unreal. Real is defined as actual being; true. Unreal is defined as not real; not substantial; having appearance only. Have you noticed how the word “unreal” has become a throw-away phrase in common speaking?

It’s that “having appearance only” that helps you reason your way through something that you see, hear, touch etc.  Both real and unreal things have an appearance.  Unreal things are not substantial.  They have no verity, only an appearance.  This means they can disappear if you remove your attention from them.

Your attention (intentional or unintentional) is what keeps things in your experience.  If you only want good things, only recognize or think about good things.  If something “unreal” passes before you (like an image of  your plus sized body in a mirror) you can tell yourself “This isn’t true of me.  Perfect proportion is the truth about me.”  In time, if you can keep yourself from obsessing about your appearance, it will return to its normal state.

I’m going to be working on that this year.

Happy New Year!

Pat

Big Girls of The World, Listen Up!

For me, there is something very appealing of bigness.  I like the round pink of my own big body.  Because I understand it’s whys and wherefores, I trust it in myself and in other big people.  I am drawn to it and I tend to be a bit skeptical of emaciating thinness, because to me it means “I don’t dare permit myself to be who I am.  I must be what society thinks I should be because I’m not at all sure of myself.” It’s the unsureness that creates skepticism in me.  I think that if you don’t know who the heck you are, and you have to insinuate yourself into some form so that others will approve of you, you don’t have enough courage unfolded yet to walk beside me and be my friend.

Would I stop on my own spiritual path and help you?  Of course I would.  I just wouldn’t invite you in to my inner circle.  There is something wonderful about loving yourself, accepting yourself, and relaxing into the joy of life’s experiences when you’re a big woman.  You’ve already discovered that the guys you are trying to please are so immature that they base their lives on appearance.  Yuk!  Give me character over appearance any day.

You’ve learned that this is a mental universe.  You know that you can think.  Only mind can think.  This would make you mind, hence mental.  You know that you are here to learn life’s laws and that your body size - whatever it is - doesn’t have a damn thing to do with this learning, so you focus on the learning and to hell with the body size.  Some of you may be surprised to discover that fat girls make it into heaven, too.  I suspect more fat girls make it into heaven than skinny ones, because when you’re fat, you have to learn to get beyond appearance really quickly or the feedback will bruise you to death!  Once you get beyond the immaturity of appearance, you get on the fast track to unfolding a real understanding of who you are, hence, heaven.

I talk about this a lot in my book, “My Cats Have Seen Me Naked: How I achieved Self Love and Self Acceptance While Obese.”  It’s my life’s story - funny, truthful, irreverent, and keenly insightful.  I wrote two workbooks jammed full of deep questions you can ask yourself to help you get to self love and self acceptance too.  You can find the book and the workbooks here. I wish you Bon Voyage and do email me at pat@theworldofwithin.com if you have any questions.

Warmly,

Pat

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“I was brought up to believe that how I saw myself was more important than how others saw me.”

~ Anwar el-Sadat

If  you are compulsed or addicted to attending to your appearance solely as a means of self-acceptance, please consider Anwar el-Sadat’s message.

I believe you cannot spend your entire life focused only on your appearance.  At some point, somehow, someway, you’ve got to go inside of yourself and figure out just who you are that’s making that appearance.  Judging by the appearance alone is effect-based thinking.  Judging from inside is Cause-based thinking.

You choose.

And then if you want to learn how to do Cause-based thinking, you connect with me.

Love,

Pat