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My 92-year-old Step Mom, Dede

If anyone has a great sense of self, it’s my Step Mom, Dede.  She is the most loving, accepting woman I know.  My dad was very lucky to have found her.

Yesterday, I talked about how Truth is Real.  Real things have these qualities: they are good; they are true; they are harmonious; they are beautiful; they are perfect; and they are loving.  If they don’t have all of those qualities, they are not real.  They are, in fact, unreal.

Unreal things lack substance, substance being goodness itself.  You can easily distinguish what is not real and turn your mind and your self away from it.  an example: Dede is real.  She has all the qualities that make something real.  Some of our current politicians are not real, and need to be turned away from. You can fill in the names yourself, I’m quite sure.

One of the clues that help you to decide if a thing is real or unreal is this:  real things never change, while unreal things change.  Truth Itself is changeless.  2 x 2=4 is a changeless truth.  It is true now and will always be true. What’s really cool about this is that once you know a particular truth, nobody can fool you about any other answer.  For example, if I said that 2 x 2 = 6, you’d know immediately it was untrue, unreal, wouldn’t you?  Like that.

Mistakes (error) is not real.  You can turn away from mistakes and think something better in their place. If you currently think you are too heavy, and you recognize that it can change, you know immediately it’s not real.  So, turn your thinking away from “too heavy” and think instead “I am my perfect size.” Your mind has been waiting years for you to get this one.  It would be thrilled to give you “perfect size” if you’ll just keep thinking it……until YOU are convinced it’s true.

Hugs,

Pat

Thad Matson Family at Christmas

I apologize to all who were reading the Christmas series of ideas.  I got so swamped at the last moment with all the holiday events that I am only now recovered enough to address the last three topics. If you’re just joining us, you can read the whole series here.

Today’s topic is Truth Alone Is Real. We live in a perceptive environment where we judge all that passes in front of us by whatever we see, hear, touch, taste, and smell.  Well, that works for a while.  There are two more senses, did you know?  Uh huh!  There remain reason and understanding.

Reason (hopefully you’ve all arrived at the state of reason by now) changes what passes in front of us. Reason lets us place our educated judgment - perhaps understanding - on what we see, hear, etc. One of the most wonderful things that reason can do is that is can permit us to determine if a thing is Real or if it is Unreal. Real is defined as actual being; true. Unreal is defined as not real; not substantial; having appearance only. Have you noticed how the word “unreal” has become a throw-away phrase in common speaking?

It’s that “having appearance only” that helps you reason your way through something that you see, hear, touch etc.  Both real and unreal things have an appearance.  Unreal things are not substantial.  They have no verity, only an appearance.  This means they can disappear if you remove your attention from them.

Your attention (intentional or unintentional) is what keeps things in your experience.  If you only want good things, only recognize or think about good things.  If something “unreal” passes before you (like an image of  your plus sized body in a mirror) you can tell yourself “This isn’t true of me.  Perfect proportion is the truth about me.”  In time, if you can keep yourself from obsessing about your appearance, it will return to its normal state.

I’m going to be working on that this year.

Happy New Year!

Pat

This is a Santa we all know and love

These are the “grands” assessing Santa.  Do we know this guy or not?  Even skepticism keeps us excited at Christmas, do you remember?

I’m blogging in December about how I am able to enjoy the holidays without kvetching about food or weight gain, and about how I got to this wonderful place. Look to the right: there’s a category called “Christmas” where you can read all of December’s posts. My dream is that on New Year’s Eve, because you follow this blog and you tell your overweight friends to read it too, we’ll all be better prepared to move into 2010  with a basket full of right ideas to help us think differently about this overweight phantasmagoria.

My last post was about how physical things cannot be permanently.  This is the reason diets and exercise are not ultimately successful.  Today, I’m going to explain to you how mental things CAN be changed, and changed permanently.  If you are a yo-yo dieter, this will help you to understand the whys of it and the wherefores of how to quit.

Here are the mental mistakes I made that made me fat:

1.  I believed I’d inherited a fat gene.

2. My named rhymed with Fatty.  Must be true.

3. I was raised to be obsessed with my body and its size.

4.  My folks said I was fat.  I believed them and thought it for myself.

5.  I became paranoid about being fat and finally manifested it in high school.

6. The best way to stay fat is to diet.  I’m living proof.

7. I had a harsh self-judgment about the size of my body…all the way from size 12 to size 3x.

8. I perpetuated my condition through repetition and ignorance.

Those eight reasons are the Cause of my overweight, not the food I eat or the exercises I do or do not do.  It’s a matter of thinking fat into existance and then perpetuating it from inside my own mentality. When I change any of those items above, and I keep it changed in my mind, my body automatically changes and the changes are permanent because I am no longer thinking it into existance.

You may be thinking “Oh, God, if this was only true, how easy it would be.”  It is true.  It is this easy. These hard-won ideas are my Christmas gift to you.  I hope you print them out, review them with regularity, and grant yourself some blessed relief next year.

Cookies, fudge and puddings!

Pat