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The Lighten Up

As part and parcel of learning to love and accept My Self (and I do believe this is why I am here), and to enhance my ability to accomplish spiritual healing for this glorious obesity sense of self, I had to also learn to do “the lighten up.”  This isn’t the latest dance craze.  It’s an attitude check.

• If someone cuts in front of you in traffic, do the lighten up.  If you allow yourself to go into rage, it makes you feel heavy.  When you feel heavy, you guessed it - you GET heavy.
• If a friend deliberately hunts for wherever you’ve parked  your goat and proceeds to niggle you in an effort to make you angry or take you off your normally happy place, do the lighten up.  Find a way to say something funny, so  your friend knows you know what he’s doing and that you refuse to respond angrily to his manipulations.
• When some &#@(%!*& customer service rep acts as if they could give a rats ass about your concerns, don’t let their lackadaisical attitude flip flop your emotions. The easiest thing to do is hang up and get a new rep so you can maintain your sense of harmony. You don’t even have to worry about turning him in to his supervisor.  The Divine Law already has it’s teeth set for his ass.
• When your mom or dad continues to give you un-asked-for advice (I’m guilty of this one), don’t let yourself go to that place of -  “they think I’m a child; they don’t trust me; they don’t even know me” - you know that place. Just say “Thanks, I can feel your love for me” and then do as  you damn well please.  They’ll get it.  My dad did.

Each of these examples are opportunities for you to “Do the Lighten Up” emotionally.  If  you can do it emotionally, it will show up on your body when this new, lighter sense turns into an absolute conviction that this IS the way you are. I’m currently working on this myself, so if one of my friends who reads this blog recognizes himself in one of the items above, Thank You for this opportunity for me to do the lighten up.

Love,

Pat

Yesterday was a wonderful day in our family.  I was in Huntington Beach and got to spend time with both my sons, individually and together.  Our newest addition, Hieronymous, was precious beyond measure.  It was a wonderful event and all the mothers were glowing.

I always look for the spiritual side of things, because I know that it’s there that the real stuff is happening behind what we merely do in our lives.  I saw great love this last weekend. I saw consideration and caring.  I saw generosity and warmth.  No wonder I feel all filled up today.  What a great weekend.

I had several grand meals this past weekend and I can honestly say, that I was focused on the enjoyment of them while I was eating them.  Yummy breakfast, lunch and dinner. I stopped on the way home and filled up my fridge with new fruits and vegetables, a somewhat lighter fare.

What ideas run behind all these things, these celebrations and grand meals and lighter fare? I’m convinced that in watching how I think about these things, I actively govern my Self and my Body. I am convinced that my thoughts about these things (which frequently happen without any conscious recognition at all!) are the most important thing.

What did you do yesterday to celebrate Mother’s Day?  What did you eat? What did you think about what you were eating? Were there any thoughts in there like “This is going to make me fat” or “I’m really going to have to exercise this off next week” or any ideas like that which make food on big boogey man in full charge of your body? It was only yesterday:  give yourself a few quiet moments today to look back and see if you thought any thoughts similar to these.

Food is about enjoyment.  It’s also about moderation. Life is a science and the ideas you think are the formula that create the result you get called my life and my body.  Your thoughts deserve careful observation and gentle discipline.  If you didn’t think it accurately yesterday, that’s okay.  Knowing that now is wonderful, so just promise yourself you’ll be more conscious about it with today’s thinking. We fat girls have become obsessive about weight and size and intake.  It’s a much better idea to gently consider that we are worthy of what we eat; that we eat all foods in moderation; and that we enjoy everything that we eat.  Period.  No need to add anything more to this.

Ideas like this abound in my book “My Cats Have Seen Me Naked.”  I personally think you’d enjoy it.  You can purchase it here.

Love you,

Pat

Today, great controversy and great agreement was made manifest at SelfGrowth.com here and it made my blood boil:

http://www.selfgrowth.com/blog/law_attraction/law_attraction_five_minutes_or_less.html

David Riklan, the site’s founder, posted a video explaining his take on the Law of Attraction.  The wide dissemination (much of it inaccurate) of individual opinions about this so-called law triggered something off in me and I felt it necessary to reply.  Scroll down on the site - you’ll find me there twice.  But the site limited me to too few characters, so I’m going to expand on what I said here.

For me, having devoted 30 years to learn the Law of Cause and Effect (What?  You didn’t know that the Law of Attraction is a watered-down version of the Law of Cause and Effect.  Hummm, interesting? Now you wouldn’t be one of those who swallows things whole without research, would you?) C&E is THE law.  We bandy the term Cause & Effect around, but I’m going to share a bit from my book where I discuss this in full detail.

The Law of Cause and Effect

You’ve heard that such a thing as Cause and Effect exists. Do you know that it is one of the laws in this mental universe? That’s right. Cause and Effect is a law. In a mental universe, those who can think are the lawmakers, because thinking is causative. Let that one soak in on you. Maybe a re-read would help.

Your mind thinking has been causing things all along. It’s one of those invisible things I mentioned before. It causes your experiences. More importantly, it causes your appearance. Oh good grief! Can this be true? You better pray that it’s true, because it’s your way out.

I’m here to tell you that it is true. Your thought is causative and what it causes is called the effect. Here it is in a very simple description.

Your mind is Cause. Everything you can see is Effect.

If that is surprising to you, let yourself exhilarate in a moment of joy, because this knowledge is the beginning of solving the problem of your mistaken sense of obesity.

As I said, just a tidbit.  The entirety of the book is about Cause and Effect, how your misunderstanding about that law created your problems with bodily size and self acceptance and how to undo it.  You cannot learn this in a five minute video.

Ask yourself one question here: can you in truth provide a definition for the word Cause that makes you satisfied?  How about effect?  I can share this with you: if you will do the work to answer those two questions, your life will change forever and for the best.

Love,

Pat